Question's. Answers.

It's been days now since me and partner last talked face to face. We only communicate through text messaging(SMS). The fight we had blew up just like that. I don't really know if it is right to call it a fight. Our arguments were more like a debate. Lot's of questions with no definite answer.

We decided to see each other. She went to the house to settle our confusions. Let the debate begin (wink ;p). At first, we were just arguing. Those usual arguements. None of us wants to go down and give way. We both are strong and confident on what we believe. Pride. Questions were asks, no answers were given. Then suddenly everything went quiet. Asleep?? nahh.. :D

The talks, the questions raised made us think. I guess, that made our mouth shut for a moment. We were pondering on all those confusing part of our relationship. Then we started to talk. A give and take kinda talk.

After the long, exhausting, teeth cracking, mouth drying, and mind blowing talks we had, we were settled. Yes. It was good. We learned to listen to each other, try to understand one another and hear each one's side then looking for the best possible answers to all those arguments.

It was tough to accept the truth, that's reality I guess. But it's even harder to look for remedies. It's hard tho' but I guess dealing with it will make us become a more stronger individual and a more mature and loving couple.

Conclusion to our great debate? Forgive. Give. Understand.

Give. What is interesting to me is that from etymology point of view, the word ´give´ shares the same root in the Old English with the word ´forgive´.

In a way, it makes perfect sense. When we forgive someone, we do give a piece of ourselves to that person.

Amazingly, it works both ways. When we give, we might also need to forgive them - if by any chance we do not get something in return, or even worse.

So we try to remember: giving is a one way process, unfortunately. When we give, we give. We do not expect something in return, unless you are in somekind of a business deal. If you do get something, great. Do forgive them (and yourself), if you do not.

We're back! Good as new i guess. And hopefully for the rest of our lives.

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